Bounce-backability – By @SharonN48301378
By Rolly Ng
I did a behaviour test with the careers service back in Warwick. The results indicate that I am very resilient, I don’t remember if it is an innate behaviour or a learnt one. In advertising, I have to expect to hit a wall, many walls actually. Alex Meckendurg gave us a master class on resilience today. Here are my takeaways.
- GO TO THE GYM. I have been procrastinating on building the habit to do exercise regularly. I felt great after a hot yoga session two weeks ago because I went further with an instructor who asked us to hold our poses longer than usual. My monthly offer ended a few days ago and I have to decide if I want buy single classes or a package of 10 classes to continue hot yoga. It’s definitely easier to sit and not do exercise than doing the math to find out which option is cheaper. But no, I have to be disciplined and go to a class, today.
- Possibility does not equal ‘Everything is good’, ‘I am fine’. It is the ability to make sense out of what I am doing to my journey.
- Resilience is a model.
- “This shit is only happening to me.”
- “The shitness will happen in all aspects of my life.”
- “This shit will last forever.”
- Remind myself that I am only caught up in a model if shit happens. This shit will pass.
- Personalisation. “This shit is only happening to me.”
- Pervasiveness. “The shitness will happen in all aspects of my life.”
- Permanence. “This shit will last forever.”
- How to help someone else? Do a fact-finding exercise. Question if her beliefs are true e.g. if EVERYTHING is shit?
- Running away from a tiger vs Thinking the tiger will eat me and running away. Am I trying to control what I can’t control? Growth and freedom originate from my power to choose how to respond. Between a stimulus and a response, there is space where I can take control. Check out Man’s Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl.
- Self-help books can be unhelpful. Don’t read too many of these. It can lead to thinking, ‘everything is about me’, ‘if I get better, everything will be ok.’
- Potential-interference= performance. I can’t control everything.
- Get hot without getting mad. Do not avoid a debate with my partner. A debate is not necessarily a conflict, it is improvement in the form of tension.
- Argue as if I am right. Listen as if I am wrong. I think it will take some practice for me to be able to switch between these two states in debates.
- Radiator or hoover? Who do I surround myself with? People who energies me, or people who suck my energy away? A hoover is someone who lets me down in promises and someone who talks me down without making the attempt to understand me.